I'm curious about how some men think that when a woman is being "friendly" towards him that they think there's a "spark" or a reptilian brain connection with her, it seems as if those men's higher brain gets short-circuited and he proceeds as if she's sexually interested in him, when she's clearly not interested in him that way. Is that a boundary issue? A poor Observing Ego? I see it often when some men first meets a woman. I also noticed that some women are used to it happening to her too that when she places a boundary on the man, he gets stressed out and over-reacts.
I try to get my limerence in check and look for attraction signals, I am able to get my reptilian brain offline (Observing Ego?) and just be friendly towards her since she's a complete stranger. I am cautious of a "love bombing" phase and want to make sure she's not a personality disordered person. The only issue I deal with is, that most women like to be swept off their feet when first meeting a mysterious man, not sure if that reptilian brain of her has a short window of opportunity or not, if I do noticed a "spark" with her, I do like to create a sexual tension between us periodically (unless she's married or has a boyfriend) while building a friendship with her.
I think it’s “unknown” or not knowable without conversation with the woman if she is even willing. Possibilities are several: she’s just in a good mood and friendly, or she’s in the mood for a little attention or banter, or she does like the guy maybe kinda sorta romantically and wants to test that theory, maybe curious what his estimate is of her social value, or it really wasn’t friendly and he just puffed it up in his own head error of estimation of the reality on his part. We just don’t know without picking her brain if she’s willing and she doesn’t owe us that because of boundaries. That’s where they come in. So it falls on the guy to sort of do a statistical analysis in his head of which of these it is or a combo of them then to go with whatever his theory is and see what happens.
I think an advanced student here will eventually know her unconscious attraction signals she's putting out, possibly getting multiple signals thru her body language. But still, there is that conquest of picking her brain... or would that be under the Men's Psychology membership, looking for those signals? Anyway, I paid attention as your previous student, and your insights helped me a great deal. Thanks for clarifying my post here about miscues, Dr. Paul.
Good afternoon, whew Dr. Paul I have pages of notes. Blew my “MIND” I have to put stones in my pockets to keep me down, giggle giggle. Step 6 is rich with a wide capacity to navigate my “MIND”. Geraldine
I'm curious about how some men think that when a woman is being "friendly" towards him that they think there's a "spark" or a reptilian brain connection with her, it seems as if those men's higher brain gets short-circuited and he proceeds as if she's sexually interested in him, when she's clearly not interested in him that way. Is that a boundary issue? A poor Observing Ego? I see it often when some men first meets a woman. I also noticed that some women are used to it happening to her too that when she places a boundary on the man, he gets stressed out and over-reacts.
I try to get my limerence in check and look for attraction signals, I am able to get my reptilian brain offline (Observing Ego?) and just be friendly towards her since she's a complete stranger. I am cautious of a "love bombing" phase and want to make sure she's not a personality disordered person. The only issue I deal with is, that most women like to be swept off their feet when first meeting a mysterious man, not sure if that reptilian brain of her has a short window of opportunity or not, if I do noticed a "spark" with her, I do like to create a sexual tension between us periodically (unless she's married or has a boyfriend) while building a friendship with her.
I think it’s “unknown” or not knowable without conversation with the woman if she is even willing. Possibilities are several: she’s just in a good mood and friendly, or she’s in the mood for a little attention or banter, or she does like the guy maybe kinda sorta romantically and wants to test that theory, maybe curious what his estimate is of her social value, or it really wasn’t friendly and he just puffed it up in his own head error of estimation of the reality on his part. We just don’t know without picking her brain if she’s willing and she doesn’t owe us that because of boundaries. That’s where they come in. So it falls on the guy to sort of do a statistical analysis in his head of which of these it is or a combo of them then to go with whatever his theory is and see what happens.
I think an advanced student here will eventually know her unconscious attraction signals she's putting out, possibly getting multiple signals thru her body language. But still, there is that conquest of picking her brain... or would that be under the Men's Psychology membership, looking for those signals? Anyway, I paid attention as your previous student, and your insights helped me a great deal. Thanks for clarifying my post here about miscues, Dr. Paul.
Good afternoon, whew Dr. Paul I have pages of notes. Blew my “MIND” I have to put stones in my pockets to keep me down, giggle giggle. Step 6 is rich with a wide capacity to navigate my “MIND”. Geraldine